Classmate Explains Why Constance McMillen Was Sent To Fake Prom: Because She’s Lesbian!

Photo from the secret prom

Lindsey Begley, who, according to her Facebook page [ed. note: I’m not going to link to her page because she is, after all, a minor — if you need to find it, you can Google it] is a senior at Itawamba Agricultural High School with Constance McMillen. And in the comments section of La Figa she explained exactly why, after weeks of fighting for the right to attend prom with her girlfriend, Constance was, instead, sent — along with a handful of special education students — to a fake prom while the entire rest of the senior class went to the real prom. Begley explains why: “She’s playing the lesbian card to prove she ALWAYS gets what she wants.”

I’m just going to let Begley explain. Yesterday afternoon she wrote:

**Open Minded Readers Only**
I am a senior at IAHS, and I’ve known Constance for the last 6 years. Please hear our side of the story before you decide on our fate.
The party we had in Evergreen (the county neighborhood I live in) is 30 mins away from the school. we rented out the community center, hired vendors, decorated, and our parents ran the security/chaperone staff- but it wasn’t prom. Prom was at the country club where constance and 7 other students were. The reason the senior class boycotted the actual prom was not because we hate gays. We wanted a drama-free gathering to celebrate 3 great years and 1 lousy one together, and we wanted to lay low. We also wanted to do it without the main cause of the lousy. What people are failing to realize is that much of the fault of this whole stink lies with Constance, not her mistreatment by the school district, but her crazy-reckless need for attention. It sounds mean and horrible and like we planned it all specifically to embarrass Constance, but we didn’t. We let her have her prom with her girlfriend and her tuxedo and we went to party it up in the “boondocks” not because we wanted her rights violated, but so we could salvage what has turned into a total fiasco. As a whole we didn’t support her decision to throw the district under the bus, or her insinuations that we’re all just a bunch ‘a hicks driving around in beater pick up trucks spitting tobacco and burning crosses. IAHS is one of the top schools in the state and I’m proud of that, and I’m proud that we took a stand and just said you know what? forget it, we have just as much right as you do to have a party for ourselves. So we did, and now we’re getting flack because poor Connie’s ego got a bit of bruising. She’s playing the lesbian card to prove she ALWAYS gets what she wants. This time, we didn’t just let her.
Take it as you will, because I’m sure it sounds like we faked her out, but understand this- the decision NOT to attend prom had nothing to do with the school or with Constance’s sexual preferences; it had everything to do with proving we weren’t going to let her and the ACLU steamroll us into doing what Constance wanted. We flexed the muscle of the majority and we’ll suffer the consequences.

It sounds like an attorney got a hold of both Lindsey and her comment because a few hours later, Lindsey wrote this:

Thanks to everyone who has responded to my post from earlier this evening. First want to apologize for the misrepresentation of the motives behind our decision. Secondly, I want to apologize for any discomfort I must have caused all you revolutionaries who are working so hard to bring change to such a small minded place as Itawamba- but do me one favor. Please, do not assume that every graduate from IAHS is stupid, incompetent as I seem to all of you. I ask that you forgive my very emotional attempt at defending my home. I personally believe that the whole thing has turned into a tempest in a teacup, so to speak, and I wish now that things could have been changed. Again, I ask you though please do not sterotype my school, county, state, or region based on what I have said. Thanks again.

Yes, this girl is young. Yes, what she wrote is incredibly bigoted. But she’s not the only one to look at here. The Facebook page “Constance Quit Yer Cryin’” has 486 fans [ed note — commenters have informed me that those who support Constance have taken over this page, which explains its growing number of fans]. The parents of the students organized the secret prom. And many students at the high school wrote some rather unpleasant things about the prom on their own Facebook pages.


This has been an ugly episode that has gotten uglier. And highlights Constance’s courage all the more.

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61 Responses to “Classmate Explains Why Constance McMillen Was Sent To Fake Prom: Because She’s Lesbian!”

  1. Bill
    April 9, 2010 at 1:55 am #

    Uhh… since when did we have to tell the school who we were bringing to prom? I don’t really remember requesting permission if it was alright if I brought my date. I bought the tickets and that was it. If it was well known that Constance was an out (and perhaps loud) lesbian and she was going to bring her significant other to prom, that’s one thing. But if she went out of her way, more or less, to proclaim that she was taking another female to the prom as her “date” and they were romantically involved, isn’t that exploiting her own persecution? She should know that where she lives, tolerance should not necessarily be expected (although it should be, admittedly). I don’t think she is entirely innocent in this matter, and anyone who is going to boldly assert one side’s “obvious” right-ness over the other, should really take some time and consider the whole picture. Forgive the lack of eloquence, but I am a little drunk. We all need to stop being so quick to judge… The town is obviously bigoted in some of it’s social views, but, the way the situation was handled on both sides is simply rediculous. It really does seem like it was a cry for attention, and not the kind of attention that will expedite the acceptance process. Constance is just bringing more negative press to homosexuals. As a homosexual myself, I think i would side with the school. Flame away.

  2. Chrematisai
    April 9, 2010 at 4:17 am #

    @Phoenix Blaze: YES. A million times yes. THAT is righteous anger if I ever saw it, right there.

  3. Kirk C
    April 9, 2010 at 4:56 am #

    Lindsey and her pals will grow to regret their part in this unkind act just as their older relatives have grown to regret the ugliness they perpetrated when their schools were racially integrated.

  4. Jimmy Fury
    April 9, 2010 at 11:09 pm #

    @ Bill

    At my school we had to tell them who our date was if we bought two tickets. Nothing discriminatory though, all my lesbian friends brought their girlfriends. It was to keep out people who had gotten in trouble and banned from prom.

  5. Xkeeper
    April 9, 2010 at 11:44 pm #

    The sad part about this is that if it was just the handicapped students, this would be all over the news with neigh-unanimous disagreement with how this happened.

    The fact the person they turned away is gay suddenly makes it perfectly acceptable to do this, though.

    Disgusting double standards.

  6. Velma
    April 13, 2010 at 7:29 pm #

    @ Bill “tolerance should not necessarily be expected (although it should be, admittedly). I don’t think she is entirely innocent in this matter”
    Innocent of what?? She probably knew she’d be turned away at the door if she turned up with another girl on her arm and/or wearing a tux. YES this was an attention grab, which is a long-standing (and effective) tool in the civil rights movement. Constance might benefit personally (in addition to tolerating a great deal of negative attention) but she couldn’t have predicted in what way; the purpose was to draw attention to the school’s discrimination, and hopefully prevent future discrimination against other gay students. The students look especially ugly because instead of sympathizing with Constance and supporting her, they whined about missing prom, AND excluded Constance from the “real” prom, blaming her for the school board’s mistake.
    As others have mentioned, Constance’s mother is gay, and no doubt encouraged her, maybe even helped plan all this. Someone else, on another site, dug up this very pertinent story about a girl who was the first black student at a segregated high school, who was also misdirected in order to “save” prom for the “normal” (in this case, white) kids.,5131613
    Note the parts that mention Carolyn King’s parents’ stake in her attending a white school. You could argue that they used her as a pawn, and that it was terrible, but she doesn’t seem the least bit regretful, despite how much pain it caused her.

  7. Rachel
    April 28, 2010 at 12:31 am #

    If this is really what they have to tell themselves in order to stay secure in their own moral superiority and (most likely) good old Christian values, then we’ve obviously made no progress whatsover in the fight against ignorant intolerance. The fact that the adults in this community are so clearly grooming these kids to be a whole new generation of bigoted, useless blights on society and humanity is not only disgusting, but remarkably disturbing. There’s such a severe lack of ethics and basic human decency. The community and all the people in it who perpetuate this kind of heartless, ungodly nonsense deserve every last scrap of disdain and condemnation the world can pile on their heads. And frankly, I hope there’s a way that school can lose a large portion of its government funding given the way they’re enforcing thinly-veiled religious beliefs in an institution where they have no place.

  8. Sam
    March 10, 2011 at 12:36 pm #

    I commend Constance for her willingness to make a big deal out of this. Everyone who favors treating other people (including the mentally handicapped) in this lousy manner need to realize that the majority of the nation is not on their side.

  9. Henry Bowman
    July 2, 2011 at 6:24 pm #

    Of course, the whole “fake prom” was set up because Constance was such a b**h that nobody wanted to be around her anymore. Interesting argument. I wonder how the “special needs students” ALSO ended up at the separate party with Constance, instead of the “private party” with all the “cool kids?” Were the special needs students whiny attention-seekers too? Or (Occam, put the razor down!) is it more likely that the “cool kids” were just cliquish BIGOTS?


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