Lindsey Begley, who, according to her Facebook page [ed. note: I’m not going to link to her page because she is, after all, a minor — if you need to find it, you can Google it] is a senior at Itawamba Agricultural High School with Constance McMillen. And in the comments section of La Figa she explained exactly why, after weeks of fighting for the right to attend prom with her girlfriend, Constance was, instead, sent — along with a handful of special education students — to a fake prom while the entire rest of the senior class went to the real prom. Begley explains why: “She’s playing the lesbian card to prove she ALWAYS gets what she wants.”
I’m just going to let Begley explain. Yesterday afternoon she wrote:
**Open Minded Readers Only**
I am a senior at IAHS, and I’ve known Constance for the last 6 years. Please hear our side of the story before you decide on our fate.
The party we had in Evergreen (the county neighborhood I live in) is 30 mins away from the school. we rented out the community center, hired vendors, decorated, and our parents ran the security/chaperone staff- but it wasn’t prom. Prom was at the country club where constance and 7 other students were. The reason the senior class boycotted the actual prom was not because we hate gays. We wanted a drama-free gathering to celebrate 3 great years and 1 lousy one together, and we wanted to lay low. We also wanted to do it without the main cause of the lousy. What people are failing to realize is that much of the fault of this whole stink lies with Constance, not her mistreatment by the school district, but her crazy-reckless need for attention. It sounds mean and horrible and like we planned it all specifically to embarrass Constance, but we didn’t. We let her have her prom with her girlfriend and her tuxedo and we went to party it up in the “boondocks” not because we wanted her rights violated, but so we could salvage what has turned into a total fiasco. As a whole we didn’t support her decision to throw the district under the bus, or her insinuations that we’re all just a bunch ‘a hicks driving around in beater pick up trucks spitting tobacco and burning crosses. IAHS is one of the top schools in the state and I’m proud of that, and I’m proud that we took a stand and just said you know what? forget it, we have just as much right as you do to have a party for ourselves. So we did, and now we’re getting flack because poor Connie’s ego got a bit of bruising. She’s playing the lesbian card to prove she ALWAYS gets what she wants. This time, we didn’t just let her.
Take it as you will, because I’m sure it sounds like we faked her out, but understand this- the decision NOT to attend prom had nothing to do with the school or with Constance’s sexual preferences; it had everything to do with proving we weren’t going to let her and the ACLU steamroll us into doing what Constance wanted. We flexed the muscle of the majority and we’ll suffer the consequences.
It sounds like an attorney got a hold of both Lindsey and her comment because a few hours later, Lindsey wrote this:
Thanks to everyone who has responded to my post from earlier this evening. First want to apologize for the misrepresentation of the motives behind our decision. Secondly, I want to apologize for any discomfort I must have caused all you revolutionaries who are working so hard to bring change to such a small minded place as Itawamba- but do me one favor. Please, do not assume that every graduate from IAHS is stupid, incompetent as I seem to all of you. I ask that you forgive my very emotional attempt at defending my home. I personally believe that the whole thing has turned into a tempest in a teacup, so to speak, and I wish now that things could have been changed. Again, I ask you though please do not sterotype my school, county, state, or region based on what I have said. Thanks again.
Yes, this girl is young. Yes, what she wrote is incredibly bigoted. But she’s not the only one to look at here. The Facebook page “Constance Quit Yer Cryin’” has 486 fans [ed note — commenters have informed me that those who support Constance have taken over this page, which explains its growing number of fans]. The parents of the students organized the secret prom. And many students at the high school wrote some rather unpleasant things about the prom on their own Facebook pages.
This has been an ugly episode that has gotten uglier. And highlights Constance’s courage all the more.